Ouch! That hurts! ?
The first step of any emotional healing is to admit you are hurt. Denial and pride are a vicious combination that stops us from admitting hurt or personal pain.
How many times have you heard people say, “I’m just fine, thank you”? Now, you can tell it’s not true, but you can’t make them be real with you because they are probably not real with themselves. That’s what you call denial. People who are in denial aren’t even aware they’re messed up. Then even those who are struggling have so much trouble being honest.
King David did not have this problem.
Have you ever read the Psalms? That man was so in touch with his feelings and failures that he wrote songs about them. Check out Psalm 6:2: “Have mercy on me, O Lord, for I am weak; O Lord, heal me, for my bones are troubled.” (Psalms 6:2, NKJV)
He admits to being weak. Do you know how hard that is for a man?
As a child, I remember the day I fell next to our home. I ran to my dad, covered in blood, and his comforting words still ring in my ears: “Go see your mom”. My dad was a war veteran who had little time or emotional equipment to fix my booboo. That’s how I was raised.
How about you? If you are a woman, you’re generally more in touch with your feelings and the feelings of others. You think about emotional issues. Men think about stuff like cars, sports, projects and hobbies. So, ladies, you are so far ahead of us men, it’s ridiculous. Men have to first overcome denial. Women, on the other hand, often experience more abuse and pain. That’s a statistical reality. Whether it’s child sexual abuse or domestic violence, women often get the raw end of the deal.
So, men, it’s time to get out of denial and admit your weaknesses. And women, it’s time to invite the Spirit to heal and empower you from deep within.
Because you’re a miracle.