Publication date Feb 3, 2022

Who has your trust?

Publication date Feb 3, 2022

So many people ask me a million-dollar question: “Who can I trust?” This phrase is rarely said calmly or without some level of emotion, so I probably should’ve written, “WHO CAN I TRUST?” Big letters equal big hurt, disappointment, and anger. That sense of betrayal can often overwhelm us and cause us to become cynical.

friend, have you ever been so hurt that you lose your faith in people, family, co-workers, employees, or employers? If your answer is yes, then join the club because the Bible warns us that “‘The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can know it?’” (Jeremiah 17:9, NKJV) That’s right…we all have hearts and therefore shouldn’t completely trust anybody, including ourselves. I know this statement sounds extreme, but please hear me out. This one piece of relational health advice can help you develop long-term relationships that are full of joy and blessings. 

Let me unwrap this truth to help you apply it to your life:

  1. Don’t fully trust things: “Some trust in chariots, and some in horses; but we will remember the name of the LORD our God.” (Psalms 20:7, NKJV) Products will let you down, cars will let you down, watches will let you down, and stocks will let you down. Things can’t make you happy, so don’t place your emotional stability in things. 
  2. Trust in the Lord. If He becomes your source of happiness, love, and health, you will learn to trust Him. He’ll never let you down. 
  3. Don’t forget that trust is earned. It can be broken, severed, or even shattered. 
  4. Don’t fully trust any person, not even yourself: “But Jesus would not entrust Himself to them, for He knew all people.” (John 2:24, NIV) All humans are made of flesh. They can fail you, betray you, and let you down.

I’ve had the privilege of helping many people become emotionally and relationally healthy through learning to trust incrementally. People have let me down, but I’ve also let them and myself down. If I’m to love others as I love myself, I have to develop realistic expectations of myself and others. God is my “cake,” and people are the “icing.” Trust God 100% and build trust with others because you’ve become a miracle. I love you so much.

Paul Marc Goulet
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