Are your words full of this?

One thing Laurel and I have learned about being in love for more than 36 years is that you have to speak the truth—but it always has to be done in love. When we speak the truth in anger, it can still do a lot of damage.

“Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.” (1 Corinthians 13:6, NIV)

Love and truth are inseparable companions. Real love doesn’t cover up sin, gossip about others, or celebrate failure. Instead, love seeks honesty, justice, and wholeness. Love that rejoices in truth refuses to manipulate—it shines light into darkness with both courage and compassion.

Jesus embodied this balance perfectly. He was, as Scripture says, “full of grace and truth.” (John 1:14, NIV) His love never excused sin but always extended grace to sinners.

One of my favorite stories in Scripture is the woman caught in adultery, where Jesus demonstrates what it means to be full of grace and truth. He says, “Neither do I condemn you”—that’s grace. But He also says, “Go now and leave your life of sin.” (John 8:11, NIV) That’s truth.

When we love truthfully, we reflect this same holy tension. It’s gentle yet honest, compassionate but clear.

Years ago, my wife had to confront me about some sin in my life. She did it with grace and truth, and my life was richer because of her courage.

So, this is my question today: Do you value truth as much as you value peace? Where do you need courage to love in a way that will make the other person better and bring more honesty and grace into your relationship?

Let’s pray. 

Spirit of Truth, help me to love with honesty and tenderness. Keep me from gossip, from pretending, and from fear. Let my words today and my actions reflect Your integrity. Teach me to rejoice in what is right and to walk in the beautiful light of truth. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Never forget, my friend—you are a miracle.